That Ain't Me - by Wendy Cunningham

You’ve all heard the saying, “Curiosity killed the cat!” But I think that little ditty is due for a revision. Comparison is the real killer, wouldn’t you agree?

I know that comparison is a major stumbling block for me in my life, but I’ve recently come to discover that most of the things that pull me into the comparison trap are actually things that aren’t really important to me. For example, I compare my body to women who are more fit than I am, but when I really stop to think about it… the reason I’m not more fit is because it’s not yet a priority to me.

So here is the key question: How many of the limited minutes you have been blessed with in this lifetime do you want to spend comparing yourself to things that you’re just not about? We get so hyper focused on what we’re not about that we don’t ever get the chance to really shine in our very special ‘about-ness.’

So what are you about? I’m about 5 things:

Faith

Family

Being Funny

Freedom

Authenticity

These are not the things that I’m trying to be, these are the things that I already am. My strengths. My values. My ‘about-ness.’

So who are you? Not who do you want to be… but who are you already?

What are your strengths?

Your values?

Your “about-ness”?

I think you’ll find your answers are the areas God’s designed YOU to shine! The rest of it is for the birds, because the rest of it isn’t YOU! Lucky us!! We don’t have to be amazing at all the things… we’ve just got to be amazingly, perfectly us.

So, the moral of the story is…. YOU HAVE A CHOICE TO MAKE! None of this is going to happen by accident. We have to DECIDE WHO WE ARE GOING TO BE and WHAT WE ARE GOING TO BE ABOUT.

We will slip into he comparison trap if we’re not able to champion.

So the next time you feel that deep rooted desire to compare yourself, even when it feels like an impulse that is out of your control, I challenge you to pause, and CHOOSE confidence in what you ARE, as opposed to feel ‘less than’ for what you’re not. CHOOSE to champion that person, instead of tear them OR yourself down. CHOOSE to be a force of positivity in your own life and in the life of others.

Readers, in this world, if you don’t choose who you are going to be, the world is going to choose for you. It will be assigned to you. If we’re not careful, we’re going to compare ourselves right into a chronic reality of shortcoming that was never ours to own.

Yes, there are a lot of things that I am NOT. But the good news is, there are a lot of things that I already am! As for the rest of it?

Well, that just ain’t me!